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Divorce and The Law of Attraction

As the saying goes “I’ve got some good news and some bad news”. First, the bad news – you attracted your divorce to you whether you realize it or not. Now the good news – you attracted your divorce to you whether you realize it or not, but that’s how powerful you are. read more

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T.H.I.N.K. Before You (fill in the blank)

As children we heard our parents and teachers remind us to "Think before you (fill in the blank)." Whether they realized it or not, they were setting the framework for a more conscious way of living. They were showing us that read more

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The Serenity Prayer and Divorce

The Serenity Prayer is most familiar in 12 Step Recovery programs however the power of its message and guidance goes way beyond addiction-related help. It can help you no matter where you are in your divorce. Let me break it down and show you how. read more

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Keep Your Side of the Street Clean

My 18 year old daughter, Kelly, calls me in a panic. Her ex best friend has text her because she’s heard rumors that she believes Kelly has been spreading about her. She wants to come down from college and confront Kelly. Kelly is upset because she says she hasn’t said a bad word to anyone about this girl read more

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Expectations are Premeditated Resentment

I’m sitting at the party. I planned it so perfectly. I would throw a surprise party for my best friend on my birthday. She’ll be so surprised! She walks in the door. She looks surprised. She greets everyone and thanks them for coming. She seems to be happy yet……I know her better than anyone. I don’t feel that read more

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F.E.A.R. (today's letter to me 5 years ago)

Almost every day for the past 6 ½ years I have read the page of the day in one or more of the Alanon Daily books and I would journal my thoughts about that page. Today I read the page of the day about fear and looked back in my prior journals. What I wrote on the same day 5 years ago was “I did say something read more

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Who Gets To See You Happy?

Things were at their worst at home. I can remember feeling that I didn’t want my then husband to see me happy for reasons like: he’d take credit for it, he’d think everything was ok, he’d take it as whatever “sign” he wanted to attribute to it. For a long time I didn’t want to give him the satisfaction of seeing me happy. That’s how crazy my life had become read more

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The Hidden Gift

We’ve become really close, she and I. I’m really happy about that. She’s been opening up to me gradually and I can see her getting more and more comfortable. She tells me about how she recently handled a difficult situation and I am really impressed. I tell her so. read more

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An Exercise in Forgiveness

I was writing an e-workbook for a teleclass I was going to give on the topic of forgiveness. As I always approach this type of writing project, I wrote down my thoughts about where I’ve been, how I moved forward and where I am now in regards to the topic. read more

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Stop Going to the Hardware Store for Milk

We’d been married for a year. It’s the second marriage for both of us. We were trying to blend families with each of us bringing 2 biological children into our new family. It was more difficult than either of us had ever imagined even though we’re both from blended families ourselves. We continued to fight about the same core issues. We had tried to read more

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Put Your Oxygen Mask on First

My children were young and in elementary school. I had joined the PTA and was involved in various social activities in order to get to know the other mothers better. I had bowled my entire life so I joined the PTA bowling league that met every Monday morning. I had gotten to know a number of women through the bowling league and enjoyed talking with read more

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Hurricane Sandy and Divorce

No one believed the warnings. It felt like we had heard it all before and it would never actually come to pass. There were things outside of our control that were coming together at that exact moment in time, and we didn’t realize we were going to be read more

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Divorcing Parents.....Listen Up!

I laughed, I cried, I had moments of recognition, I gave it two thumbs up and I couldn’t wait to discuss it. No, this wasn’t because of a new chick flick; this was after watching the HBO documentary “Don’t Divorce Me! Kids’ Rules For Parents on Divorce”. This powerful documentary shares the thoughts read more

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All Is Well Until You Know Differently

The first time I heard this statement was when I was newly in the post-divorce dating stage. After numerous dates and very short relationships I met someone I connected with. He was charismatic, funny, loved doing anything and everything, loved his children, showed an interest in mine and even talked read more

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Don't Give Up Before the Miracle Happens

My son was diagnosed with ADHD at 4 years old and was eligible for a wonderful kindergarten program for children with special needs. The teacher was amazing and with her help I was able to manage my son’s behavior without having to medicate him. The kindergarten was in a different school than the read more

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I Promise I'll Tell Your Story

I was leaving my office Thursday afternoon with my rolling bag filled with work to complete over the weekend. As I walked down the long hallway towards the outer door I notice a nicely dressed woman in front of me. She had on a very pretty blue top and when she reached the door and opened it I thought to read more

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You're Only As Sick As Your Secrets

I was attending a presentation by Pulitzer Prize winning author, Frank McCourt, discussing the ins and outs of writing a memoir. Frank McCourt won the prestigious award for his heart wrenching description of his impoverished life in Limerick, Ireland titled “Angela’s Ashes”. I had received the book from my grandfather on the day of my grandmother’s funeral. read more
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The Ins and Outs of Online Dating from a Match.com Success Story

I was newly single at 40 years old with a 14 year old daughter and 10 year old son. I was way past the crazy social things I did in my early 20’s – past the point of hanging out in clubs, winning burping contests at the read more

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"The Cat Story" - A Lesson in Guilt

Here’s where “the cat story” began – She was torn. The cat was very ill and needed to be put to sleep for its own good but she felt so guilty. Her boys didn’t feel the same way she did; they said the cat was very mean, scratched them many times and they weren’t as read more

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Dysfunctional Family Bingo

It was the week before spending Christmas with my husband’s family and I was sick to my stomach. This had become the typical response when I was anticipating spending time with them. I had been dealing with their inappropriate behavior and my husband’s denial of the situation for a very long time. Each time I had to see them I was nauseous read more

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Your Jigsaw Puzzle

In the book Living a Life That Matters by Harold S. Kushner, he shares what a friend and colleague wrote regarding our importance in each others lives – “Each lifetime is the pieces of a jigsaw puzzle. For some, there are more pieces. For others, the puzzle is more difficult to assemble. But know this: you do not have within yourself all the pieces to your read more

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